Alone

I have often heard women say " I don't need a man" or " I'm better off alone". And in return I say, bull****! True, we don't need a man to survive, and in turn they don't need us. We can actually go on living and breathing without a man in our lives. Shocker, I know. But, I, for one am not better off alone. To be completely honest, I don't like being alone. As a matter of fact, I hate it. However, through many years and many dates, I have learned what I want, what I don't, what I will put up with and what I won't. ( I so was not trying to rhyme there).

With that being said, I don't think any of us truly want to be alone. I think maybe we get tired of dealing with all the relationship crap and drama it brings. And this pertains to all relationships, not just the romantic sort. We get tired of our work relationships, and our friend relationships, our family relationships, but mostly our romantic relationships. We get tired of the lies, and the deception, and the utter heartbreak that seems to come with most relationships until we just shout " WILL EVERYONE JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!" Or at least I do. Don't you ever just get to the point when you've had it and just want everyone to leave you alone for a bit? I do, but it's usually very short lived (well except for the time that I wanted to be left alone for two years, but that came after a  HUGE heartbreak). I don't want to be alone forever, and I certainly don't think that I'm better off alone.

I think that what we really want girls is to find that Mr. Right For Me. You see, the mistake many of us make is having this vivid picture in our heads of this perfect guy. Well, he doesn't exist! But what can exist is Mr. Right For Me. This is the guy that is your other half. You really connect with this guy, on a level higher than what happens in your bedroom, car, bathroom stall etc. You realize that he's not perfect, nor will he ever be. And your list? Well, toss it now, or you'll never find him. Men are not a list of perfect attributes, or what looks good on paper. Do we want to be looked at like that? No, we don't.

So, instead of lying to the world (and yourself) with all of this "Alone" business, why don't you just remember what it is you really want. Now, I don't know what you really want in a man. And while not everyone wants to be married, well I don't believe that anyone wants a life without love. I believe that everyone wants a life filled with passion for another. I believe that everyone wants a life in which they are loved, and they love someone else.One of the most important dating tips I've learned is always be yourself because they may fall for the pretend you, but once the real you comes out, they will get back up and walk out of your life as quickly as they walked in. Another one is to always stick to your beliefs. There's no reason to be alone. You don't have to be. Just don't waste your time sleeping with all the Mr. Wrongs hoping they'll turn into Mr. Right because, well, that never works either. Take it from me.