Heaven or Hell

What if God gave us an insight into our future eternities? Would this have an impact on the way we are living now? If we were shown that we were going to heaven, would we stop living for Christ, would we stop always doing the right thing, because our eternities were "safe"? If we were shown we were going to hell, would we start living better in order to avoid this torture for all eternity? Or would we think it wouldn't happen to us because we're "good people" and God is a forgiving God? Or would none of this matter to those of us who neither believe in a heaven or hell? 

Well, the simple truth of the matter is that Heaven and Hell are both very real places. They're not just an idea of where we may end up. Heaven is not just a fantasy of someplace better than here. And We are given glimpses of  both Heaven and Hell. We are given these glimpses through the Bible. And the choices we make in the here and now do affect where we end up. And we're not going to get there by just being "good people". The Bible very clearly lays out what is expected of us, and what happens if we don't do what God expects of us. And here's the kicker: God doesn't want us to go to hell!! We send ourselves to hell! 

And here's where it gets uncomfortable...

The Bible clearly states that we are to be sexually pure. Yet we sleep around. We "test drive" partners until we find just the right one....or who we think is the right one. Or sometimes we just sleep around just to be doing it.

It also clearly states the dangers of lying, cheating, stealing, etc. Yet we seal our fate by doing those things too.

The Bible views homosexual activity as an abomination...yet so many claim they are born that way. 

There are so many things we do that are sealing our one way ticket to hell.

So, here's my invitation not only to you, but to myself as well. Seek out Jesus!! Don't just say you're walking with God, actually walk with God. Seek a relationship with Him! Share Him with others, and risk being called "churchy" or "judgmental" or " goody two shoes". Even if we're not going to Hell, do we really want to risk those we love going to Hell because we're afraid of what they might think of us?

Alone

I have often heard women say " I don't need a man" or " I'm better off alone". And in return I say, bull****! True, we don't need a man to survive, and in turn they don't need us. We can actually go on living and breathing without a man in our lives. Shocker, I know. But, I, for one am not better off alone. To be completely honest, I don't like being alone. As a matter of fact, I hate it. However, through many years and many dates, I have learned what I want, what I don't, what I will put up with and what I won't. ( I so was not trying to rhyme there).

With that being said, I don't think any of us truly want to be alone. I think maybe we get tired of dealing with all the relationship crap and drama it brings. And this pertains to all relationships, not just the romantic sort. We get tired of our work relationships, and our friend relationships, our family relationships, but mostly our romantic relationships. We get tired of the lies, and the deception, and the utter heartbreak that seems to come with most relationships until we just shout " WILL EVERYONE JUST LEAVE ME ALONE!" Or at least I do. Don't you ever just get to the point when you've had it and just want everyone to leave you alone for a bit? I do, but it's usually very short lived (well except for the time that I wanted to be left alone for two years, but that came after a  HUGE heartbreak). I don't want to be alone forever, and I certainly don't think that I'm better off alone.

I think that what we really want girls is to find that Mr. Right For Me. You see, the mistake many of us make is having this vivid picture in our heads of this perfect guy. Well, he doesn't exist! But what can exist is Mr. Right For Me. This is the guy that is your other half. You really connect with this guy, on a level higher than what happens in your bedroom, car, bathroom stall etc. You realize that he's not perfect, nor will he ever be. And your list? Well, toss it now, or you'll never find him. Men are not a list of perfect attributes, or what looks good on paper. Do we want to be looked at like that? No, we don't.

So, instead of lying to the world (and yourself) with all of this "Alone" business, why don't you just remember what it is you really want. Now, I don't know what you really want in a man. And while not everyone wants to be married, well I don't believe that anyone wants a life without love. I believe that everyone wants a life filled with passion for another. I believe that everyone wants a life in which they are loved, and they love someone else.One of the most important dating tips I've learned is always be yourself because they may fall for the pretend you, but once the real you comes out, they will get back up and walk out of your life as quickly as they walked in. Another one is to always stick to your beliefs. There's no reason to be alone. You don't have to be. Just don't waste your time sleeping with all the Mr. Wrongs hoping they'll turn into Mr. Right because, well, that never works either. Take it from me.

I am imperfect.....

I am not perfect....I know, shocker, right? It's true. While I am what some may call a good, Christian girl, I am still not perfect. I am not even close. I'd like to be, but it just can't be done. I have thoughts and feelings that are far from being this perfect Christian so many are expecting me to be. What's wrong with just being imperfect me? In my own personal opinion, absolutely nothing.

What I desire is a happy medium. I don't want to be the type of girl who relishes a life of sin, but I cannot be perfect either. So, I will just be....me. I will not live according to the standards of others. I will only live according  to the standards of God, and what I can live with myself. It is very important to me to be able to look in the mirror everyday. I am tired of living up to everyone else's expectations and judgments, because in the end, I will only answer

So, here it is. I like the Twilight series. I love Christian music, but I also like other music too. I LOVE James Patterson novels. I love kissing. I even love "making love".

When I envision dating in the future (however near or far that may be), I see me with a man I care very much about and who cares about me, the real me. I am done doing what everyone else thinks I should do. And when and if I decide to be intimate with someone that will be up to me. As a matter of fact, whatever I do is up to me. What can I say............I am imperfect.